Adultism: The Hidden Toxin Poisoning Our Relationships with Children

Mother and kids by the lake.

We are a culture whose view of parenting, children, and childhood is rooted in adultism. Adultism is the silent, hidden toxin in our child-adult relationships and in our culture.

Unlearning Adultism

Mother and children on sunset

By unlearning adultism we create a foundation to establish relationships with children based on mutual respect, trust, and freedom.

Children are the Mirror for Our Internal Work as Parents

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Our culture defines the adult-child relationship from a core of control, fear, and mistrust. Conflicts with children become power struggles, but they don’t have to be.

Hope and Despair

The tragic shootings at the Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church in Charleston have weighed heavily on so many of us. I have felt it and talked with many others who are struggling to make sense of what is… Read More

Q&A: How do I foster compassion when it feels like the world does not?

Hello!  After my email last week, I started to pay more attention to how news and events out in the world came up in our family life on a day-to-day basis. Those reflections reminded me of a question a… Read More

Mindful and Just Parenting: Cultivating the Courage of Radical Compassion

Although I have written about the research on the positive effects of mindfulness and presence in my book and in several articles, today focus is slightly different. I want to address that aspect of mindfulness that is the… Read More

From My Heart to Yours

Although much of my energy these past weeks has been focused on my Transform program, the recent events in Baltimore are weighing heavily on my heart and mind. A lesson I learn over and over, as I watch… Read More

A New Vision of Children and Childhood

When I began my journey as a parent, I was determined to avoid the mistakes of my parents and my own childhood. I was determined to create freedom of expression (especially emotions) in my home. I wanted the… Read More

Controlling Children’s Media Access Part Two:

Are Stereotypes and Prejudice Only Perpetuated in Media? This article was first published in the November/December 2012 edition of Home Education Magazine Before becoming a mom, I had spent over a decade as a professional working with college… Read More